The odds might be against me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve to play the game.
In case you were wondering, being unapologetically “ordinary” has implications beyond online dating.
“Classically attractive” women have more difficulty online dating.
Given the competitive nature of the medium, some men assume if a woman is too attractive, she may be inundated with prospects.
My best friend, who looks like the racially ambiguous lovechild of Brad Pitt and Pocahontas, waves her phone at me in righteous indignation. Several of my “classically attractive” friends are pissed.
“It’s like your biggest accomplishment is something you didn’t do yourself.”She wasn’t being rude; I’m not beautiful in the traditional sense.
I recognize the strength and sensuality of my curves. I laugh like a drunken sailor, and meet people with an open heart.
I worry less about pretense or maintaining some mystique, and if a suitor doesn’t get me, I can chalk it up to math.
I’m not ugly, but I don’t have much beauty privilege (and make no mistake, beauty privilege yields tangible rewards).
In an effort to preserve sanity, I discovered very early that what is good and beautiful about me doesn’t require external validation.
If someone doesn’t “match” with me (online or in real life), it doesn’t mean I’m less valuable.
Dolezal’s parents recently went on record to say that the family is (mostly) Caucasian, though their daughter has identified as African American for some time. People are attempting to draw a connection between this and discussions around Caitlyn Jenner.
The Interwebs has gone wild with this in the past few days. I don’t think that analogy holds, and neither does Ryan Cooper at The Week.