The real issue here is what is the problem that In other words: If you can have the ones you don’t want wrapped around your finger as love slaves, then something about you “wanting” someone is what’s causing the real problem here.Let’s examine what those common problems are: He’s out of my league / I’m not good enough for him– Mindset is everything in dating.If you’ve been falling into the trap of telling the only-the-ones-I-don’t-want-want-me sob story, STOP IT and never do it again. who have never experienced having men obsessed with them, chasing them, idolizing them… You have experience a type of girl that the vast majority of other women don’t have.
To improve your relationship, improve your life and your love for yourself. First, let’s be clear on “liking” and “attraction”.Now, you may say, “Eric, even if I repeated that to myself a thousand times it would still not believe it.” Why not? And the more in-demand a guy is, the more he’s craving to meet a girl who actually feels like a worthy partner to him. I’ve known girls that would obsess over guys – chasing, checking their texts, etc… But most importantly, they loved the reassurance to their ego – having their “prize” like them back validated them as being good enough in the world.You’re only not good enough when YOU decide that you aren’t good enough. until he started liking them back or showing signs of commitment. I’m not here to judge, but if that’s your mindset, then I think you’re best course of action is to really examine yourself and see if you have an issue becoming vulnerable to people or opening up. OK, when he was interested, you were living and enjoying your life.When you BELIEVE and ASSUME that you are irresistibly attractive and that a man (or any man) wants you hardcore, it often comes about.Thing is, sometimes women make “identities” out of their problems – what starts out as a quirky, lighthearted complaint keeps getting repeated until it suddenly becomes their reality and they believe that this is out of their control.